Mary J. Blige On Marriage: “I Never Saw Myself As A Woman That A Man Like Him Would Want’
“I just want to remind everybody how far we’ve come, because everybody can get so down on themselves. And we’re not perfect. We’re never going to be perfect.”
It’s not just the accolades that has dubbed Mary J. Blige the ‘Queen of Hip Hop Soul,’ it’s also the fact that Mary has been so open and vocal about overcoming her personal struggles over the years that has earned her a place in the hearts of her fans and fellow artists. Although, she sings about ‘No More Drama’, she made headlines in the early stages of her career for her personal drama as well as being less than pleasant in interviews. Nine Grammy’s and Six Multi-platinum albums later, she caught up with CBS News to discuss her latest release ‘My Life 2′, as well as how she overcame the ‘Mary’ of the past while revealing that she didn’t think she was worthy of being married to a man like Kendu.
Check out some excerpts from the very personal interview below:
On Initially Dealing With Fame & Her Label Sending Her To Etiquette Class
“I started speaking about what I was dealing with through my music, and 4 million women responded and said, ‘Us too, Mary. And I didn’t know that everyone was hurting like I was hurting. I had no idea. [...] I didn’t know who I was. So if ghetto fabulous and keeping it real and all of that was what I was, I was cool with that … until I learned that I can be more than that. The younger Mary J. Blige, I would call her, she was very unaware, ignorant.”She didn’t know how to sit down and give an interview and respect the interviewer. I’ve grown a lot in that area.
I don’t know how I knew that whatever I am – which is broken and unarticulate – would help people. Because I didn’t know I would grow and evolve to this. But I just was completely like, ‘I don’t want to take no etiquette.’ I didn’t care about taking an etiquette class.
Mary met her husband of eight years, Kendu Isaacs, after years of abusing alcohol and cocaine and being molested by a family member as a child. She said she thought so negatively about herself and her past that she never believed a man like him could ever love someone like her.
“Even after I was married, I still couldn’t believe it, that it was real. And he really did love the broken down, little old me. ‘Cause I just never saw myself like the woman that a man like him would want.”
“Because my past was just horrific. I felt ashamed about everything. Me dropping out of high school, me not, you know, just not being beautiful enough. I just didn’t feel like I was smart enough or beautiful enough, you know, for years.”
Now that she’s a veteran in the game, Mary is in a place where she not only loves her life and her career, but herself.
“I enjoy it more now. Because now I can see it. And I know what it is. But when I was younger, I didn’t know what the heck was going on. I was just singing for my life!
“I was running and hurting, and the only thing was coming out was pain. So now I’m enjoying my life because I know who I am.”
“I’m Mary Jane Blige. Jane Blige! You know, that’s it. I know who I am. I am not perfect. I’m not the most beautiful woman in the world. But I’m one of them.”
Check out the video of Mary’s CBS interview below:
Via CBS News